一位老同学近来觉得自己过得浑浑噩噩,向我询问人生该如何规划?
这其实是个很难回答的问题.这就像一个人想出去旅行,他需要知道他想去哪里,或者想去往什么样的地方.然后他才能去找出他想去的地方在什么方向,距离有多远,需要走多久,可能会遇到什么事情,需要做哪些出行的准备,是否要找人一起去,找谁,什么时候出发,途中在哪些地方休息,等等.而即使这些都回答了,都做了很详尽的计划,这仍然是不够的,他还需要做好随机应变的准备,因为世界上,唯一不变的是变化,计划必须随着实际情况与预想情况的出入做调整.做好计划难，调整更难，而及时调整是难上加难，因此，大多数的人生规划都会中途夭折。
小时候老师提问：你长大了要做什么啊?律师,科学家,老师,军人……这些都是计划，有目标，也有了一生的期限。只是，最后有几个人会真正成为他小时候想成为的人呢？小时候“幼稚”，其实幼稚是什么呢？只是知道的懂的太少，所以想的很天真很简单。而现在的我们相对于多年以后的我们，何尝不是“幼稚”？当小时候的理想随着我们年龄的增长与现实差距越来越大的时候，当我们的想法随着知识的增长在磕磕碰碰中改变的时候，我们就被迫被动或主动地放弃了曾经的理想，也许觉得遗憾，也许觉得曾经很可笑。遗憾也好，可笑也罢，这就是人生，我们必须懂得去承认已经成为过去的事实，然后我们才能在今天脚踏实地。如果不想明天后悔，就必须过好今天，人可以一天浑浑噩噩，两天浑浑噩噩，但是不能几年都浑浑噩噩，因为人生没有多少个几年，即使不知道何去何从，也不要无所事事。追求理想的过程，实际上是一个自己跟现实赛跑的过程，要么将它抛在后面，要么被它抛在后面，永远不要指望现实会停下等我们慢慢赶上。
犹如人走路，目光所及，我们知道我们能否走得过去，看不到的地方，意味着风险，因为你不知道那里有什么，即使别人告诉你那里有什么，你仍然无法完全确定，既然无法完全确定，你就不知道它会造成什么样的影响，在它基础上能做什么。人生规划也是如此，我们看不到人生的尽头，我们也做不了很准确的预测，因为这是个普遍联系的世界，任何一件微小的事情都可能产生蝴蝶效应影响整个世界。我们知道的太少，看到的太少，而更多的是未知，好在遥远的未知也许太过“遥远”而可以忽略它们对我们的影响（例如100年后的事情基本不会影响活着时候的我们，地球另一头的暴雨不会影响你这边的城市继续阳光明媚），所以我们仍然是可以对我们所知道的力所能及范围内的未来做计划的，并且可以有比较大的自信去达成。如果你对此还缺乏自信，那只是说明你定的还太远，你不能确定的还太多。因此，先做有把握的计划，从一天做起，从一周做起，逐步前行逐步在目光能够触及之处的范围内制定新的计划，在前进中慢慢磨练自己的能力，当以后自己的能力可以让自己“看”得更远的时候，计划就能越做越丰满，越做越长远。只是，不要长久没计划。记住一点，往往我们每走一步，我们就能看远一步。走得远，看得远，然后走得更远。
A friend asked me: how to do planning for the life?
This is a difficult question to answer. It's like a person wants to tr*el, he needs to know where he is going, or what kind of place he would like to go, and then he can finger out the direction to that place, how far is it, how long to get there, what may happen, what preparations are required, shall he go with someone, whom to ask to go together, when to le*e, where to rest during the tr*el, etc. Even these are answered, and a very detailed plan is made, that's still not enough. He needs to be prepared for exceptions and changes. Over this world, only changes last forever, plans h*e to follow up with reality and adjustments are always required. Planning is not very easy, making adjustment is difficult, and making adjustment in time is more difficult, that's why lots of plans failed in the middle.
When we were children, our teacher asked us: what kind of person you want to become? Lawyer, scientist, teacher, soldier...This was plan, it has a goal, with one's life as its term. But, how many people finally become the one he/she wished to be? Children are just too young, just like we are young comparing with ourselves of years' later. We were just not h*ing enough knowledge and thinking things too simple. Year after year, it seems our goal becomes further and further to the reality; year after year, what we thought changes slowly to get used to the truth. Finally, we decided or we were forced to g*e up the person we wished to be. This is life, and the past is a fact, no one can change, we h*e to admit it, and then we can go forward without worrying or regreting for the past. If you don't want to regret tomorrow, make today a better day. We can living for some time without caring what we h*e done, but we cannot doing that for few years, because we don't h*e many "few years". Even we don't know where we are going, we h*e to do something and we h*e to keep in mind what we are doing. The process of pursuing the goal of life is the process of racing with the reality, keep ahead of it, or being kept ahead by it, never hope the reality can slow down and wait for us to catch up.
It's like walking, we know if we can go to the place we can see, and for the places we cannot see, they mean risks. Because you don't know what can be there, even people tell you what are there, it's still not totally certain. For things uncertain or unknown, you don't know what they may affect you, and what you can leverage from them. Planning our life is kind of the same, we cannot see the end of our life for now, we cannot forsee the future. This is a world that everything connected to each other directly or indirectly, every little single thing may result in an impact to the whole 't know much, and we don't see much. What we know a lot is unknown. The good news is that we don't need to care about many things too "far" away, like the things may happen 100 years later, or if the rain in another city in the other side of the world will impact the sunny day here. So we still can do planning within the range of our abilities with confidence. If you are not confident with the plan you made, it's just because of the plan you made is going too far away, or there are too many uncertain things in the plan. Make a doable plan with confident, proceed with it.
Go further, see further, than go further.